Hey y’all, it’s Landan! I’m sharing my personal experiences with wedding planning today, but I included photos from The Floyd’s wedding. They are beautifully stunning and completely embraced their style, but they’re also so special and you can see the love shared between them. I hope you love looking at their day as much as I do. 

My sister-in-law is getting married this weekend and we’ve been in the thick of last minute planning all week. There’s been a lot of crazy – from normal crazy of guests changing their RSVPs to a “no” last minute to not so normal crazy like having to find a new hair and makeup team 4 days before the wedding – but she’s been handling it all with grace. With each hiccup that’s come up, we’ve spent a lot of time talking about what really matters with the wedding day and how it’s going to be a great day no matter what comes. 

If you’ve been following along with our blogs for awhile, you may remember reading about what I got caught up with in wedding planning. It’s a phenomenal experience – and there are SO many little decisions that come together to create your magical big day – but at the end of the day your marriage and the memories you’re making on your wedding day are the most important. They say hindsight is 20-20, and I think there will always be things that are easier to look back at and learn from other people’s experience, which is why I always try to give you an unfiltered view on what I’ve learned through planning my own wedding and in married life. 

I’ve been married for 2.5 years, and have attended more weddings than I can count since our wedding, with another NINE weddings coming up in the next year. I wouldn’t trade it for the world, but this is a season of life that has been wildly busy. With all of the conversations I’ve had in the last few months with my friends getting married, but especially this week with my sister-in-law, it made me really sit down and think about what I truly remember from our wedding day. So, 2.5 years post wedding, here are the take aways I would tell my engaged self while wedding planning:

I do remember the personal details (but not all of the small things) 

I spent a lot of time planning out every single little detail, from what every place setting would look like to the cuff links the groomsmen would wear. Like, a lot of details. I had people tell me that the littlest details were a waste of time and money because I wouldn’t remember them or care about them as soon as the detail photos were done. In some ways, that may have been true, but what I DO remember is every detail that I personalized in a special way. So, while I don’t necessarily care what the cufflinks were that didn’t have any sentimental value, I don’t have a single regret in the extra time I spent personalizing our menus to tell the story of why we chose each dinner item. I really don’t think any aspect of wedding planning is “wasted,” especially if you enjoyed it while in the process of it, but I do think that it makes the day more special when you make intentional choices based on things that mean something to you – like personalizing our photo booth props – versus just making a choice because it’s aesthetically pleasing to the overall design and concept – like using a photo bus for our photo booth.

Videography is worth the investment 

Every single time I hear one of my friends wavering on whether or not they should do videography, I immediately say it’s 100% worth it. You can read more about it here, but what it really comes down to is that our wedding video lets me relive that day and it’s like being back in the moment.

The people are who matter, but only some of them 

Okay, this is a big one for me (and for my sister-in-law this week). As the last RSVPs started coming in and some people said they weren’t coming that I thought would come, coupled with a handful of people who backed out the week of for various reasons, I was seriously stressing about whether it would all work out. Here’s the thing: the people that are there and surround you are the ones that matter. They help you make those memories you’ll never forget. We had just under 200 people at our wedding, and I love all of them dearly, but I won’t pretend to say that we equally spent our time with all of them. Some were there for our parents more than us – and that’s totally okay – but the ones who spent the most time with us on the dance floor are memories we’ll always treasure. I could get to a point of rambling here, so I’m going to end with this: regardless of who comes, the people who are there make your day what it is and it’s going to be great because of them.

Floral installations are the way to go 

I love flowers. Love love love them. They were so important to me with wedding planning and I’m so glad we incorporated them in a major way during our wedding day. But, I do wish I had utilized my floral budget differently. I don’t really remember what each individual table set up was, but I do remember what our floral installations looked like. They made a huge impact and were more special to me, so if I could go back I would focus more of our budget on my bouquet and installs and less on spreading flowers throughout the entire venue.

Focus more on emotions and less on the specifics 

It doesn’t matter what song you choose to walk down the aisle, but it does matter how it makes you feel. Similarly, we had four different cake flavors, but the only one I remember is the specialty one we chose because it incorporated my husband’s favorite things. When you get caught up in the details of wedding planning, focus on the emotions behind what you’re choosing or how to make it meaningful, because that is what will be more memorable long after the last dance is shared.

The day really does go by fast, so make time for special things

I still can’t believe how fast the day goes by. There are a lot of things going on, from getting ready to photos to the dancing to cake cutting, it’s just a lot and every single bit of it is special. But what I remember more than anything? The moments we took to slow things down and make it extra special. The first touch with a letter reading we shared before our ceremony and having a private last dance were two of the best moments from our day. I seriously can’t recommend it enough – build in moments for the two of you. I will also say that the letter reading specifically, or any other way that you choose to express your love for one another, has been something I’ve looked back on numerous times during various moments of our marriage. Your vows and love for one another matter and are ultimately what the day is about. Don’t lose sight of the marriage in the process of planning a wedding.

We all love beautiful weddings. We love to be inspired by Pinterest and show off the stunningly creative ideas that our couples come up with. We dream about perfect wedding days and planning out everything to the smallest detail. I would never tell you not to do those things. But if you’re feeling a little stressed, wondering where to put your focus during planning, or questioning what you want your big day to look like, these are what I’d tell you. I will forever say that the memories you make with your spouse are the most important part of your day. The people surrounding you on your wedding day, the emotions attached to it, and the love that is shared are the most important. Do I have things that I’d probably change if I were to replan our wedding now, knowing everything I know? Absolutely. I think most brides would probably tell you the same thing. But I also know that every bride will have favorite moments from their day that made it perfect – and that’s what I choose to focus on instead. Regardless of who shows up, or what chaos ensues, it’s going to be a wonderful day because it’s your wedding day. Focus on that joy, soak in the special moments, and remember that you’re walking out of it MARRIED. That’s the coolest part. 

 

The Floyd’s Vendor Spotlight:

Coordinated by Sweet Laurel Events

Catered by Got It Covered Events

Band by Dustin Garrett Band

Strings by Sienna Strings

Floral by Reiley and Rose

Bar by Bartenders 4 You

Photography by Rachel L’antigua Photography

Hair & Makeup by Blush’d Beauty