Hey y’all, it’s Landan. If you’ve been following along with our blogs for a bit, you’ll know that I’m 1. obsessed with weddings and 2. endlessly sentimental. While I wish I could repeat our wedding day again and again, I live vicariously through our couples until I can convince my husband to agree to marry me again. So, with that said, while I use “I” in the blog, I’m showing off photos of Mr. and Mrs. Behnsch today because they are simply beautiful. I hope you enjoy looking at them as much as I do.
Within a couple weeks of being engaged, I was gifted a countdown calendar. I excitedly flipped the blocks for over 365 days, getting more and more pumped that the wedding day was FINALLY almost here. When we hit double digits, it started to feel so real. I honestly thought that it would just be pure excitement and giddy happiness at that point. Sure, there would be stress added in that naturally comes with wedding planning, but towards the actual getting married part? I was expecting nothing but happiness. And I felt it, until about 30 days out, when a new feeling showed up: bittersweet.
Don’t get me wrong – I was beyond excited to get married. I couldn’t wait to say I Do and start life with my husband by my side. There was absolutely nothing relating to the marriage itself that had me worried. But I wasn’t ready for the wedding that I had been planning for months to just be over so soon.
I thought I was alone in that emotion for awhile, but as I watched more and more of my friends get married I saw them go through the same thing. I saw their eyes light up when they saw their flowers and decor finally together at the same time while also hearing the wistfulness in their voice that they knew it was only for that one night. You’re ready for the wedding, you’re just not ready for the wedding to be over.
Of course my biggest recommendation is to hire a bomb photographer and videographer team so you can relive your day over and over again. Nothing will compare to that. But, there are always ways that you can make intentional choices while wedding planning to give your items a second life. It’s a small way of bringing your wedding home with you.
As an added bonus, it allows items to serve double duty. Because let’s be honest – weddings can get expensive. And as easy as it is to get wrapped up in wedding planning and pinteresting and customizing everything you can, it’s painful to spend all that time and money on something that you’ll never use again.
Here are our favorite items to give a second life to after the wedding is over:
Bar signs, welcome signs, and neon signs are some of the best options for giving your items a second life long after the wedding is over. While you won’t typically reuse anything that says “welcome to our wedding,” you absolutely can repurpose a sign that has just your names on it. If you’re still in the planning stages and want to intentionally choose signage that can be reused for years to come, some things to think about are where you would place it in your home and how to make it true to you as a couple, not true to you as a bride and groom. For example, bar signs that have a list of every single drink are super specific to the wedding, but custom signage with your dog’s face on it, like Bella’s Bar, or signature drinks inspired by your name would look great in the bar space at your house. Similarly, avoiding dates on your welcome sign means you could use it as a welcome sign in your entry or as mantle decor. With neon signs, name signs (“The Williams”) are generally more likely to be reused than wedding-themed quotes (“happily ever after”) or wedding hashtags. It’s not to say you can’t use these things – you totally can if you want to! – but it is something to think through if you know you want to use them again.
Cups, Koozies, and Napkins
Cups, koozies, and napkins are one of the most popular items to customize for a wedding day, and with good reason. People always enjoy them, they’re a relatively inexpensive way to add customization throughout the entire reception space, and the leftovers are great to take home and use for future get togethers. We’ve had friends send us pictures using the koozies years after our wedding and we still grab the leftover cups when we want a throw-away cup (we had a ton left over because the bartenders accidentally lost a box, but that’s another story). This is a another spot where keeping the design to your first names or new last name can make them less wedding-specific, but with the nature of what they are it’s still fun to use them even if they scream wedding day.
The Bridal Accessories
Whether it’s your jewelry and shoes, your getting ready outfit, or a personalized jacket, don’t be afraid to wear it all long after the wedding is over. While the custom jacket is probably the hardest to reuse (especially if it says something like wife of the party) it’s definitely doable. I’d say to choose the design you love for your wedding, because you can always have that one as a keepsake to break out on any anniversaries, but some designs totally work for day-to-day wear too. If you want to create a jacket that will do both, finding fun patches to put your last name on it (skip the Mrs.) is a great spin on a high school letterman jacket.
Girl, get your bouquet preserved! There are so many different ways to preserve your bouquet, from making art pieces to hang in your home to turning it into jewelry. Research the different options to see what you think you will use the most, but it’s a great way to always have that special moment with you.
Take it from me: get your dress cleaned right away, otherwise it’s still going to be hanging in a closet (dirty) three years later. Whether you want to keep your dress for future generations to wear or display, turn it into tutus for your little girl, donate it to The Angel Gown Program, or make it into teddy bears or ring bearer pillows, the future options for reusing your dress are endless. Just get it cleaned so you have those options available.
The Groom’s Accessories
One of the least talked about aspects, but truly one of the easiest to reuse! Someone told me once that their husband wears his wedding socks to every wedding they’ve gone to as a sweet nod to their own marriage. Whether you want something sentimental or just want something that can be reused in the day-to-day, things like wedding socks, ties, tie clips, cuff links, and his watch are all items that can be chosen specifically for your wedding day then be brought out again and again.
When it comes down to the wedding day, embrace it!! Eat the food. Enjoy the drinks. Dance your heart out. Don’t stress if your dress gets dirty or your heels get kicked off. Celebrate with your loved ones. Make memories that you’ll never forget. Time flies by and I guarantee you the day will go faster than you want it to, but I promise you it’s all so incredibly worth it. But, if you’re a little like me and wish you could relive it all over again, don’t be afraid to give your items a second life and enjoy them for years to come.
Looking for more ways to bring your wedding day home with you? Check them out there.
Kelsey and Zach Behnsch’s Vendor Spotlight:
Coordinator: Hazel & Bloom Events
Caterer: Heavenly Gourmet
Band/DJ: At Last Entertainment
Photographer: Pine and Blossom
Videographer: Dynamic Films
Bar: Bartenders 4 You
Cake: Serendipity Cakes
Hair/Makeup: Jax Studios
Officiant: Pete Villareal