For clarity: The “I” in this blog post refers to Landan and her wedding experience. The photos, however, are from Ashton and Blake’s wedding day at The Chandelier. Their photos make us SO happy and we couldn’t help but share them with this, since we love how they show Ashton and her girls in their getting ready outfits, celebrating the day with a bridesmaid reveal, and coming full circle with their portraits. 

In the weeks leading up to our wedding day, Texas weather was pulling a doozy on us. Rain and a mild cold front were in the forecast, but they changed when the cold front was supposed to arrive at least 15 times, ranging anywhere from Thursday to Sunday night. It was also rapidly changing just how far south it would push down. Two days before the wedding, they finally said it was supposed to arrive late Friday night through midday Saturday, and our wedding was Saturday evening.

At our rehearsal dinner on Friday, it started to sprinkle and I was thrilled. In my mind, if it was already raining, the cold front was early, which meant the worst of the weather would be long past by the time we were trying to take portraits and have our outdoor wedding ceremony, all decked up in gorgeous girl’s wedding dresses.

I went to bed to get my wedding day beauty sleep, of course, but I did wake up in the middle of the night at one point and noticed it raining. Again, I saw this as good news. Then, when I woke up on Saturday morning it was gorgeous outside. I’m talking perfect spring temperature, blue skies, birds chirping, gorgeous weather. HALLELUJAH. There was probably a 10ish degree temperature drop, so we figured the cold front came through early and it was even more mild than predicted.

And then two hours later it started to pour.

I remember walking to the tinted window and staring outside.You can also contact experts to know more about the benefits of residential window tinting or you can check over here if you need the best window services.The wind was insane and then it started hailing. I remember all of my bridesmaids telling me to just walk away from the window (whose designed was published on Lifetime Exteriors site) and not pay any attention to it, that it would pass. Instead, I stood there staring at the rain blowing sideways and started laughing. They all thought I was about to lose my marbles, particularly when the weather alert popped up that we were under a tornado watch, but I actually felt surprisingly calm. I was more worried about the fact that all of our guests were in from out of town and no ones car was in a garage than I was about the actual wedding – because I knew it was happening, come hell or high water.

The rain did stop, and the grounds dried out enough for us to have our ceremony thanks to the 25mph winds, but the weather was still rather chaotic. And the 10 degree temperature drop was probably closer to a 20-30 degree one by the time it was all said and done. A lot went wrong throughout the morning, from the wind and the weather to a couple of vendors getting flustered, so let’s just go with the summary that things did not go as planned.

If you’re feeling your heart rate go up at the thought of things going wrong on the morning of your wedding, take a deep breath, because I’ve got you. On the other hand, if you’re getting a good laugh out of my story of chaos – GOOD. Lord knows I was laughing at it all, and I have full confidence that you’ll be able to handle whatever comes your way, too.

I hope your getting ready process is far less chaotic than mine was. But, whether things go perfectly or you end up in a perfect storm, I have a few tips and tricks for how to stay calm on your wedding day. These babies are tried and true because I lived through it, said I Do, and am here to tell the story.

Tip #1: Have a team that you trust. 

Of all of my tips, this one absolutely has to be at the tippy top of my list. We had so many changes that had to take place on our wedding day, from making the call of where the wedding ceremony would actually be held to dealing with sound issues to changing floral set ups. Other than one vendor that I had to deal with personally, my team knew what I wanted and made it happen without having to involve me with multiple questions throughout the day. I knew, without a shadow of a doubt, that they would handle it and find the same solutions that I would have found. Having a vendor team that you trust and that gets you lets you focus on yourself and not have to micromanage anything on your day. More than likely nothing crazy is going to happen and it will be smooth sailing – but you might as well have the added confidence.

Tip #2: Get some sleep the night before. 

This one was so hard for me. My entire bridal party, and my sweet husband, all hung out the night before our wedding. They stayed up pretty late, if the snapchat stories the next day were any indication, and I knew I couldn’t function the next day if I would have stayed with them. I know your mind will also probably be running with 101 different things, but try to shut it off and get some rest. Go to sleep at a decent time. Wake up and do your typical morning routine. The wedding day is long and you want to be well rested for it. If you struggle with sleep, consider trying Happy Hippo to help ease into a peaceful night’s rest.

Tip #3: Have a to-do list. 

If you’ve read some of our other blogs, then you know I can be a bit of a control freak when it comes to planning. Remember in the last tip where I said you might have a ton running through your head when you’re trying to sleep? This was my solution to it. I kept thinking of little things that I didn’t go over with my coordinator or that I thought might need to be changed or slightly adjusted in case the weather was bad. So, instead of focusing on them, I had a running to-do list on my phone where I would just make little notes to get them out of my brain. I sent them all in an email to my coordinator the morning of the wedding and then that was it – it was out of my hands and into hers. Every planner ever may be rolling their eyes at me right now, but if you’re someone that worries about little things then put the worries on someone else so you can just focus on your joy.

Tip #4: Make the space yours.

If you’re getting ready at The Chandelier, you’re in for quite the treat. The bridal suite is gorgeous, spacious, and laid out like a dream for getting hair and makeup done and getting dressed afterwards. I honestly don’t know how you wouldn’t enjoy your time in that space. But, one of the ways I made myself feel calmer on the wedding day was really embracing the space that we got ready in. I hung up the “Future Mrs. Williams” banner from my bachelorette party. I had music playing that put me in a good mood. I had my favorite snacks there – and Kevin sent me my favorite cookies. (As a side note – you have to eat. I found that I was more successful in eating even though I was nervous/distracted by surrounding myself with my favorite foods that I knew I couldn’t deny.) You’re going to be spending multiple hours in the room you get ready in, so make sure it’s an environment that you can enjoy.

Tip #5: Surround yourself with good people. 

Someone once told me how rude one of my bridesmaids was and she didn’t really get how we were friends. I laughed out loud because the reason they thought she was rude is because she can read me like an open book and knew that I was mad as heck at that person, so she ran interference so I wouldn’t say something I’d later regret. If you know there are people in your life that have even the slightest possibility of causing you stress – don’t allow them around you on your wedding day. I know that’s sometimes easier said than done, so if you can’t avoid it, surround yourself with enough good people that know and love you so they can calm you down if it does happen. Funny story aside, you really do want to be surrounded by your favorite people when you’re getting ready. Choose people who make you laugh and who know how to help you create the wedding day you want to remember.

Tip #6: Love your outfit.

This is such a small thing, but I think it makes a world of difference. You’re about to wear your wedding dress, which is hopefully one of your top 10 things you’ll ever wear in your entire life. I want you to love your getting ready outfit, too. I walked around in white pajamas and a long sheer robe all day like the wedding venue was my runway. And when the vendor who shall not be named upset me, I whipped that thing around like my sass was going to block her from existence. I felt so confident and pretty all day long, and I know that translated when I put my wedding dress on, too. Whether you want to splurge a little on something or rock something cozy, choose an outfit that you’ll 1. like in photos and 2. feel great in all day.

Tip #7: Focus on yourself.

Every piece of advice I read pre-wedding said to turn my phone off and to not message or call anyone. I tried, but it wasn’t working so I personally let myself have my phone, but I wasn’t on it much. The only person I was texting was Kevin or my dad. I didn’t scroll through social media.You can look at this web-site to know how I have invested my time usefully in social media.Then I read congratulations text messages as they came in, but I didn’t respond to any of them. So, I’m classifying this tip as focusing on yourself. Don’t get distracted or removed from the moment with the people you’re with, because the text messages and social media can wait, but if there’s someone you want to talk to that’s not there with you then talk to them. If you want cell phone pictures of your day, take a couple or ask one of your bridesmaids to be in charge of it for you. If you want to run the music selections, then do it. Don’t get caught up with distractions and don’t deal with drama, whether it’s coming from your phone or from something going on around you that day, but do focus on yourself and do the things that make you feel happy and more comfortable. If I would have followed the arbitrary rules I set for myself and didn’t have my phone, I wouldn’t have seen the snapchat and instagram stories from the mini-party my husband had the night before our wedding, and let me tell you, those brought me a whole lot of happiness.

Tip #8: Give yourself plenty of time.

This one is simple. If you put yourself on too tight of a timeline, you will be stressed. Build in some wiggle room and don’t watch the clock too closely, especially as you get close to ceremony time.

Tip #9: Connect with your soon-to-be-spouse.

Of all of my tips, I think this one is my favorite, which is why I saved it for last. I mentioned above that I shared a few text messages with Kevin the day of our wedding and that he sent me my favorite cookies. We’re a fan of tradition and while we didn’t see each other until I walked down the aisle, we did have a first touch and he sent me letters throughout the day that walked me through the stages of our relationship. I was a puddle of tears and laughter with every single one, but they also calmed me and reminded me of who I was about to spend the rest of my life with. You’re marrying your soon-to-be-spouse for a reason and they probably know how to calm you down better than anyone. Whether it’s a good morning text, sharing a first touch or first look, or communicating with one another in whatever way makes sense to you, I recommend trying to connect with your spouse at some point before you say I Do. 

At the end of it, you’re getting married later that day – but you might as well enjoy the entire day. I think a lot of times when we talk about wedding planning we focus on the actual wedding part of it, sometimes dipping into the photos and hair and makeup timing a little bit, but the biggest focus is always the things that are specifically wedding related. But, you know yourself. If you’re going with a somewhat typical wedding timeline, you have an entire morning to fill before you actually get into the taking photos/ hiding out from guests / walking down the aisle goodness.  If you handle stress by getting some quiet time alone, then do it. I left my bridesmaids for an entire hour in the middle of the getting ready process because I knew I needed to be able to just be alone with my hairdresser to focus on myself for a little bit before getting back into the fun of being surrounded by them. If you love your middle school dance songs, make that playlist and jam out all day. If you adore brunch, go out to eat with your girls that morning or get something super tasty delivered to the bridal suite. Whatever it is, take the time to think about what you want your wedding morning to be like. I promise it will make it so much better because you will be happier, and that happiness will just multiply as you walk down the aisle, share your first kiss, have your first meal as husband and wife, and get to start the rest of forever together.

Ashton and Blake Whitter’s Vendor Spotlight

Coordinator: Sweet Laurel Events

Caterer: Werner’s

DJ/ Photo Booth: Toast Entertainment

Linens Rental Company: Marquee 

Florist: Reiley and Rose

Bar: Margarita Madness

Photography: Regalia Photography

Cake: Sweet Treats

Hair/ MakeUp: Blushd Beauty

Videography: Dynamic Films